• We are BLESSED if we have the means and ability to care for our hair.
  • It’s not “I have to do my hair, but I get to do my hair!” 🙂

My hair care philosophy is always evolving: I try to stay open, stay learning, and change my thoughts when I gain new knowledge.

That said, below is my current set of main beliefs about good hair care.

My (Current) Philosophy About Good Hair Care

  1. We are BLESSED if we have the means and ability to care for our hair. This means:
    It’s not “I have to do my hair, but I get to do my hair!” 🙂 Caring for my natural hair takes much longer than caring for my relaxed hair ever did. I can experience that as a painful fact or I can slow down and just embrace what natural hair care is for me: a weekly 5-hour or so, loving date with my crown that shows me that I value myself, my beauty, and my hair.
  2. Hair care consists of:
    • Internal hair care (our health, what we put into our bodies, etc.)
    • External/topical hair care (how we handles our hair, what we apply to our hair, etc.)
  3. Minimally, external hair care consists of:
    • Scalp care
    • Ends care
    • Strands care
    • Edge care, and
    • Styling
  4. The hair’s porosity level and individual strand diameter need to be TOP factors in regimen decision making, including:
    • product usage,
    • the strength and frequency of protein treatments to apply,
    • etc.
  5. Whether a product should be trialed or purchased should depend on the product’s
    • ingredients,
    • pH level,
    • potential long term effect upon the hair,
    • performance — both alone and in conjunction with other products/staples used,
    • smell,
    • availability, and
    • price.
  6. Nailing one’s natural hair care regimen requires trial and error, which in many cases amounts to trialing a good number of products, techniques, different orders of regimen steps, etc. Accordingly, while we should definitely practice good financial stewardship on our natural hair journeys, along with that we should make peace with the absolute necessity of trialing techniques, products, regimen tweaks, etc. Hair care should not induce guilt, lack of peace, etc. We must make peace with the ups and down and monetary and time investment that nailing one’s regimen entails. I believe we can do this if we budget, pace ourselves, purchase samples whenever we can, take notes and photos to show what works and what doesn’t so that we won’t forget, research ingredients and reviews and watch relevant YouTube videos before purchasing products or tools or accessories, etc.
  7. The Curly Girl Method plus monthly chelating makes sense for my hair.
    NOTE: The Curly Girl Method entails the use of no silicones, or at the minimum use only of water-soluble silicones. The reason: To avoid a cycle of blocking out hydration with silicones, drying out the hair when it becomes necessary to use sulfates to remove silicones because you need the silicones removed so that moisture can get in, and so on.

ALTERNATIVE OPINION TO MINE REGARDING THE CURLY GIRL METHOD: Some individuals with highly porous (“hipo”) and/or fine strands have told me repeatedly that silicones are great for hipo or fine hair. These folks swear by silicone-containing serums, in particular. Someday I may try silicones, but for now I avoid them almost wholly, with the exception of those in the hair mousse I use — Design Essentials Almond & Avocado Mousse. I have yet to obtain a silicone-free mousse. If you have a recommendation for a silicone-free mousse that has great hold, please do let me know!